7.30.25 // Date Your Life Decisions

Date your life decisions.
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My sister sent me a newsletter the other day, and tucked inside was this passing line: date your life decisions. It struck something in me- like recognition, like truth I hadn’t had words for until now.
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Because this is how I’ve lived, whether I meant to or not.
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And honestly, it’s made some people uncomfortable. Our culture tends to praise certainty, commitment, the clean arc of a five-year plan. But I’ve never understood how we’re expected to make permanent choices without lived experience, how we’re meant to pick a path before we’ve ever walked it.
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How could I possibly commit to a life, a version of myself, without first trying it on? Without seeing how it fits, how it stretches me, how it makes me feel?
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We don’t expect someone to marry the first person they go on a date with. We allow space for curiosity, exploration, even redirection. So why don’t we offer the same grace to our life decisions?
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You can only choose based on the perspective you have now... your current knowing, your current self. And that knowing is incomplete. Always. So let your choices evolve as you do.
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Date your decisions.
Get to know them.
Romanticize them, even.
But stay honest.
Let yourself change your mind. Let yourself be changed.
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Make decisions without turning them into cages.
Treat them as conversations, invitations, a way to get closer to what fits.
This isn’t flakiness... it’s wisdom. It’s self-trust.
It’s being brave enough to keep listening even after the decision is made.
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Because changing your mind isn’t failure.
It’s intimacy with your own becoming.